If you and your partner are stuck in a cycle of conflict and uncertainty, you may feel torn between two difficult paths: working through your issues or starting divorce proceedings. For many couples in this situation, the first step is finding clarity. That’s where Discernment Counseling and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) Intensives come in.

Considering a couples therapy intensive can feel overwhelming, especially if you're unsure about the process. Here's a clear, step-by-step guide from your first inquiry to the deep healing experience of an intensive.

If you're here, you're probably exhausted by the same recurring conflicts, disconnection, or sense of loneliness creeping into your relationship. You've tried everything—talking, reading books, watching videos—but nothing seems to shift the dynamic. You're at a crossroads, feeling hopeful yet uncertain about the next step.

Enter the 90-Minute Extended Consultation—your vital first step toward lasting relationship change through Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

For many couples, intimacy issues are not just about sex—they are about emotional disconnection. Research shows that emotional closeness plays a significant role in sustaining a healthy sexual relationship, and when couples experience emotional distance, their physical intimacy often declines as well (Johnson et al., 2021). If you and your partner feel more like roommates than lovers, you’re not alone. Many couples struggle with mismatched libidos, avoidance of intimacy, or a lack of affection. However, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)—particularly through intensives—offers a proven way to rebuild both emotional and physical connection.

Infidelity can be one of the most devastating events in a relationship, leaving both partners grappling with intense emotions and uncertainty about the future. The betrayed partner often experiences profound pain, anger, and a deep sense of loss, while the unfaithful partner may feel guilt, shame, and fear of losing the relationship. Rebuilding trust after such a betrayal is challenging and requires a comprehensive approach that addresses the underlying emotional wounds.

You love your partner, but it feels like you’re stuck in an endless loop of the same arguments. No matter how much you try to talk things out, you keep triggering each other, and before you know it, you're back in a heated fight. You may wonder: Why do we keep hurting each other when all we want is to feel close?

From my experience as a seasoned couple’s therapist, this frustrating cycle is common in relationships, but the good news is that it’s not a sign that your love is broken. Instead, this could be a sign that your emotional bond needs repair. This is where Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) intensives can be life-changing. Instead of spending months in weekly therapy sessions trying to make slow progress, an intensive allows you to dive deep into your relationship dynamics and create real change in just a few days.

Relationships are complex, and even the strongest couples can find themselves trapped in negative cycles of conflict and disconnection. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) offers a structured, research-backed approach to breaking these patterns and fostering secure emotional bonds. Developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, EFT is based on attachment theory and has been widely recognized as one of the most effective forms of couples therapy (Johnson, 2019).

When relationships struggle, couples often search for a solution that provides not just temporary relief but deep, lasting change. Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) stands out as the most research-backed and effective approach for couples wanting to heal and strengthen their bond. But what makes EFT so powerful? The answer lies in science—specifically, our understanding of love, attachment, and emotional connection.

An EFT Couple’s Therapy Intensive is ideal for couples who:

• Feel stuck in repetitive conflicts that never seem to resolve.

• Struggle with emotional distance or lack of intimacy.

• Have experienced breaches of trust and want to repair their bond.

• Are considering separation but want to explore reconnection first.

• Desire a deeper emotional connection and stronger partnership.